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 Living With Someone Else's Addiction Is Hard

What we do to help most people in our lives is not what helps our addicted loved ones.
​It is confusing to realize that less is more and often our helping is actually hurting.

"I was blown away when Jodi taught me what I did for my 'normal' children did not work for my addicted child.   I learned I had to do the opposite of what I wanted to do.  When I learned that, everything started to make sense."

​~ CJ - Burnaby BC

If you are like most family members I work with, you will relate to this:

  • You love your loved one more than anything.
  • Everything you do is because you love your addicted loved one.
  • You continue to sacrifice yourself, even though you know in your heart it isn't helping anyone.
  • You are strong and resilient, and you don't give up easily.
  • You are creative and intuitive, especially when it comes to your loved one and their addiction.
Even when you love your addicted loved one, that doesn't mean you will be able to stop them from using drugs and alcohol or change their self destructive behaviour.
​"I met Jodi when my daughter was going through the throws of severe alcohol addiction.  We mostly just talked on the phone when I was absolutely exploding with panic and anxiety.  I didn't know which way to turn.  I felt like I had lost a daughter who had always been close to myself and my husband.  It was the most traumatic period of my life.  I came to refer to Jodi as my angel.  Whenever we would talk I started to calm down and feel like there was some hope.  Jodi was always positive and supportive;  I never felt judged.
Jodi walked with me and held my hand like no one else could do.  Her own experiences that she shared with me helped me to see that there may be a light at the end of the long dark tunnel."
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 ~JK, Vancouver

If you are struggling with any of the issues below, Families Do Recover can help you become empowered to help your addicted or recovering loved one.

If you have an addicted loved one...
  • you feel like you are drowning in your loved one's consequences.
  • you jump every time the phone rings.
  • you feel like you are working harder to get them into recovery than they are.
  • you live in fear that your loved one will die.
  • you are constantly on edge, not knowing what will happen next.
If you have a loved one in recovery...
  • you still jump every time the phone rings, just waiting for them to relapse.
  • you are tired of waiting patiently for them to get their "act together."
  • you find yourself always giving advice and frustrated because they don't listen.
  • you are hurt because they haven't made amends to you yet.
"Change the way you look at things 
and the things you look at change"

​                                       ~ Wayne Dyer
By looking at addiction in a different light or seeing behaviour in a different way, you allow yourself the dignity of responding, rather than reacting.  Giving yourself space to respond and change one tiny sentence or set one little boundary, allows you some healing and changes the dance with your addicted loved one.  As you change, they are forced to change and when that happens, the possibilities are endless.  
Stop worrying, isolating, feeling hopeless and overwhelmed. 

Stop feeling like you are the one who is responsible for your loved one's well being.  

No more fixing, saving or rescuing your loved one.

Learn what motivates your loved one to give up everything they know is essential and meaningful in their life to obliterate themselves and destroy every significant relationship they have. 

Uncover what motivates you and what you can do to take your life back.

Find out how to support your loved one to find their own path of recovery without sacrificing yourself anymore.
 "It is not enough to put your child into rehab; you have to look after yourself.  ​We know that without Jodi, and the other parents in the group, we would not have made it and we would have continued to blame each other for our daughter’s addiction. We have learned that we did not cause it, we cannot cure it, and we cannot control it, but we can face it together. Jodi has brought a calming peace into our lives, which has made this unfortunate and unexpected journey livable."
​                                                                                                                                                                           ~ Jennifer and Jim, Vancouver
For additional resources to help families of alcoholics and addicts please
visit our ​BOOKS & SELF-STUDY page

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