How would you answer the question, "Who are you?"
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It's okay if you are unsure of the answer.  You may have lost yourself in your relationship with your loved one, while in active addiction or while you navigate your way in recovery.
Do you feel lonely and/or neglected in relationships, friendships or family dynamics?
Do you feel like your needs and wants are unimportant?
Do you make yourself small because you were told you were "too much.?"
Do you bend and twist your reactions and responses because it didn't feel emotionally safe to be you?
Pretzel twisting and being someone you're not,  to stay connected to the other person in the relationship, is a common pattern developed out of things learned from childhood.  You don't have to continue to feel seen and not heard, abandoned, unimportant, neglected, small, silenced, too much, dumb, big, stupid, unworthy or any of the other things you have been convinced of.  You are a grown person, who gets to decide who you are, your talents, your likes, dislikes, your voice, feel important, smart and completely worthy!  
You can rediscover who you are, what you like (and don't like), what fills your cup, and
most importantly, where you find your joy!
How did you lose yourself?
It is like cooking a frog.  The frog is put in a pot of tepid water.  The water temperature is slowly turned up getting hotter and hotter until it is boiling.  The frog has no idea the water temperature is rising until it is too late because it happens gradually.  

The same thing happens in relationships.  One person starts gradually giving up their wants and needs to make the other person happy, avoid conflict, to feel important, useful, connected or a variety of other reasons.  As the individual neglects what is important to them, they start adopting the interests of the other person and losing perspective on what is meaningful for them.  ​
You can find yourself again by looking inside, uncovering what you lost, discovering what is new and discarding what doesn't work.
Recover Yourself - Return to Your Authenticity
Recovery means to find what you have lost.  To do this, you have to  find the person you lost and heal the root when you sacrificed your authenticity to attach to your peers, caregivers, authority figures or other important person in your life.   ​
​Recover Yourself - Return to Your Authenticity is a six week program in which I support you to find your old self with adjusted parts so you don't lose yourself again.  
During the six weeks, we uncover the reasons you abandoned yourself, discover what you want and discard what doesn't work.  ​
Once you have re-established your connection with yourself, I help you shift the beliefs and rules you have carried around that don't necessarily work for you.  Through hypnotherapy and conversations, I help you find the root of the faulty beliefs including other people's rules, and find what you genuinely believe about yourself.  You find the behaviours and tools you use to cope that don't serve you anymore and adjust them so they work in harmony to support what you truly desire.  ​
How do you know you've found yourself?
Finding yourself is a journey.  You may feel like you have just scratched the surface and have more work to do.  This will be a breeze now that you have reconnected with yourself and trust to your intuition.  ​
Signs you have found yourself
You will start to notice changes in yourself that surprise you.  
  • Your moods will be less like spikes and more like rolling waves
  • knowing what you like and don't like
  • enjoying your own company
  • saying no when the request doesn't feel right or you don't want to
  • not feeling guilty when you say no
  • not making excuses for yourself
  • connecting with your friends
  • knowing what brings you joy
  • developing your own interests
  • having goals and direction in your life
  • not needing the reassurance of others