There is no one thing that is the answer. It is often a combination of elements that give families what they need.
Families Do Recover provides a range of programs aimed at aiding individuals in their journey towards recovery. Whether you are struggling with addiction and seeking a path to recovery, a family member grappling with the effects of a loved one's substance use, or in recovery seeking to address deep-seated issues, we have programs tailored to meet your needs.
Pretzel twisting and being someone you aren't to stay connected to the other person in the relationship is a common pattern developed out of things learned from childhood. You don't have to continue to feel not seen and not heard, abandoned, unimportant, neglected, small, silenced, too much, dumb, big, stupid, unworthy or any of the other things you have been convinced of. You are a grown person, who gets to decide who you are, your talents, your likes, dislikes, your voice, feel important, smart and completely worthy!
When people are in any kind of relationship with an addicted loved one, they tend to sacrifice their authenticity to attach to that person. People in the sphere of addiction like to keep the peace, and as bizarre as it sounds, are more comfortable in the familiarity of the chaos. Many people in recovery grew up in addicted or dysfunctional homes. This is where the familiarity was created. By working back and integrating the events that trigger the unsettling feelings, everyone can heal the parts of themselves that were sacrificed to attach to others.
Heart of the Family - Education™ is a counsellor-led, online group for family and close friends affected by someone's substance use disorder. During the 4-week group, loved ones are given a better understanding of what they are dealing with either during active addition or early in recovery. The Registered Therapeutic Counsellors teach practical skills along with some simple and easy to remember language, that helps loved ones detach without anger and resentment.
The group atmosphere allows family members to end the isolation and the silence and form connections and relationships with other people in similar situations. Group members can ask for help, offer suggestions, talk about what has worked for them, and what hasn't. The loved ones become part of a community of support and have a place to connect.
Currently, both education and support groups are held Thursdays, on zoom. Each Education Session is 4 weeks and begins the first Thursday of every month. Support groups are ongoing.
One person's addiction affects a minimum of 10 people around them. While the family is not responsible for their loved one's challenges with substances, the family does play a role in the dynamic that perpetuates the loved one's addiction. The Family Recovery Program is a custom program designed for the particular needs of the family with several components including, family conferences, Heart of the Family (Family Education and Support), the Boundaries Workshop, counselling, Hypnotherapy and several other possibilities. Each family member can use the components that support their own recovery.
Recovery does not happen between 9am and 5pm. The messy stuff happens outside of the program you are part of, or in off hours. Families Do Recover offers in the moment crisis calls and texts, when your support network or support people are not available. These are not full counselling sessions, and are meant to be used in times of stress or uncertainty. Often a quick call or text can help you through the moment and allow you to get grounded so you can respond to the current situation in a more appropriate manner.